CAVEAT: This is a true life story, but the names and places are fictitious but the dates of the events are correct.
April 15 2011, University Of Jos, Constitutional Law class, the lecturer had been lecturing. He said, “Our leaders don’t give us the good life we deserve.”
Chris muttered, “Kanye West,” and the girl seated next to him, Jennifer, smiled.
The lecture ended, and she turned to Chris and said hi to him. She went on, “My name is Jennifer. Are you in this class, I have never seen you before?
Chris smiled and replied, “Yes I am in this class.”
She said it was a pleasure meeting him and left.
Chris was a very tall, gentle and reserved guy. Not the exuberant social type- he was an introvert. Jennifer, on the other hand was chubby, extrovert, intelligent, smart, with a killer shape and well sculpted figure. That greatly appealed to Chris. Chris didn’t like slim girls.
He saw this meeting as an opportunity to be friends with Jennifer. The class had a group page on Facebook, and he had been seeing her comments well before that day. That evening he sent her a friend request, inclusive of a message that he wanted to be her friend. She accepted and obliged him.
And so it started, little by little, they became closer, always communicating on 2go, Twitter, Facebook. Chris’s feelings for Jennifer grew, and soon he fell madly in love with her. Here is a girl who had the figure and shape Chris liked. She had swept him off his feet, stolen his heart completely and practically had him in her palms. Jennifer had become a reason for Chris to always be happy; the reason to always look forward to new lecture sessions.
For Chris, he had met his wife. His mind always went wool gathering about her, and he was willing to spend the rest of his life with her. They sat together in the class. They were seen together around. Tongues started to wag that they were having an affair.
The semester ended and she celebrated her birthday. Chris was among the few guys around. When it was time for her to do the ritual, the usual celebrant dance, she danced with Chris.
During the holiday, they communicated frequently through 2go. She sent him a text message once “A bird once landed by my side, and I picked it up. Despite its cuteness was its simplicity and it reminded me of you”. That was the best message Chris had ever received, and it meant a lot to him. Chris opened up, and told her how she was driving him crazy and asked her to become his girlfriend. She turned him down. He continued throughout the holidays, yet she never budged.
He resumed the next semester earlier than her. People kept asking him about her. Some even intuitively muted that he would be missing her and would be feeling lonely. All the while people had been asking him about their closeness. He always maintained that they were just friends. People were incredulous and always refused to believe him because of how close they were.
Jenifer finally resumed on the 1st of August 2016 and things continued between them.
On a fateful day in August 4, 2016, at 10 pm the worst happened. She called him up. She was angry and bitter. She accused Chris of telling people, that they were dating and having an affair. Chris tried to plead his innocence, but she wouldn’t listen. She hung up angrily on him.
The next week, Chris sought out Jennifer’s friend in final year and informed him of everything with the hope that he would speak to Jennifer and try to settle the problem between them. Jennifer told her friend that there was no problem, and the friend informed Chris what he had been assured of by Jennifer.
Days passed, the semester continued, but Jennifer wouldn’t respond to Chris’s greetings or talk to him. Jennifer began posting updates on how not to trust people, or make people priorities in your life that only see you as an option. All these hurt Chris very much he wondered why Jennifer wouldn’t give him a chance, and allow them thrash this issue out like adults. Besides Chris had always had female friends whom he was very close to. Girls came close to him because of his cool and gentle nature. At some point people had said they were dating, but these girls had informed Chris, and had always smiled and laughed over it. None of them got angry, or put the blame at the doorstep of Chris. So he wondered why Jennifer was acting differently.
Chris became sad and depressed. He no longer looked forward to lectures. He practically began missing lectures sometime. What was the need of attending lectures when he would sit in the same room with someone he could no longer consider as friend, and would be reminded of all those good times and be left feeling sad! That things were no longer so, made him very angry and he always felt that he had been betrayed by someone he trusted who could not trust him in return and turn to accuse him of trivial offence which oughtn’t have turned so sour. Even if she may never agree to date him, all Chris wanted was to have his friend back again. She shouldn’t have just led him on, and left him in the middle of nowhere, or lifted him up, and just left him in the air to crash land.
The Semester ended, and things didn’t improve.
From 300 level to final year, and even till now, there has been little communication between them, but Chris knew that nothing had really changed, and might never really change. They Are Not Really Friends, Neither Are They Enemies Either. This Is 2016, and Chris still wishes they could become friends again, and if she could love him, he would be happy, because he still loves her very much, and is still willing to marry her, and spend the rest of his life with her.